Dear Girl, There is hope.

If you're a girl and reading this, I want you to know you're not alone, and even though I may not know you... I love you.

Sometimes we go through such difficult trials. We hear so many bad words. And when they're ones that should know better then anyone else, it hurts even more. It makes it even harder to find that trust again. It's hard to look at people the same way. We hear that we are liars when we never lied. We hear we're in denial, when they have not a clue. People steal from us, and our children. A man that you might trust with your life... to throw you out with a pack of wolves.

...to literally feel like you've been eaten alive.

When you change your identity for someone because you love them, and it's all just... gone. Thousands that you inherited from family, sold. You have nothing left. He didn't care to leave you with a dime. Because in his heart, it's owed to him.

He doesn't tell you you're pretty enough, but tells you that you need to drop to a certain weight by a certain time period. He tells you that you don't take care of yourself, when you spend hours in front of the mirror preparing for the day. You workout at the minimum 2 times a day, not for yourself, but the man you love, just to make him happy. You research foods and change your entire ways of eating because now... for the first time, he shows you some positive attention, and finally tells you how smart you are. But don't you dare ask what a word might mean... he will tell you to "go look it up in the dictionary" and call you stupid and all kinds of mean words.

You're beat down to a point to where you don't even have the desire to breathe anymore.

The pain might be excruciating. The pain might be overwhelming. But you know... you KNOW you can't stop! You HAVE to keep going!

I didn't feel worthy when I was married. I didn't feel beautiful. I didn't feel like I amounted to anything. When you give so much, for the other to give back so little, ...take away, it's challenging to find warmth in someone again.

I've had to find myself again. It wasn't an overnight process. It took days, and weeks, and months to even begin to heal!

...but when you get to that "happy place" where you find complete happiness within. And you just KNOW you can conquer the world on your own!... it's an amazing feeling.

I'm not saying everything is perfect. My finances are still shot from the divorce. It will take me some time to recover, but you just can't ever give up! When you know you did everything you could do, and you did it the right way, then that's all that matters. God is on your side. And He will take care of what needs to be taken care of. That being you... and the ones who've harmed you.

Love yourself. Do things for YOU and NO ONE ELSE!
If you want to work out, ONLY do it for YOU!
If you want to eat, Go at it girl!
If you want leave your shoes out in the living room, leave 2 pairs of your gorgeous stilettos, it'll give the room a little shazamm!
If your heart feels wrong from other peoples choices... YOU STEP IN!!!
You have the RIGHT as a child of God to speak up!

If I could go back in time, that would have been one thing I would have changed. Was to be ME and respect my own opinion!

Now I love myself fully. Every part of me. Every inch of me. Every drop of me.
I know how incredibly intelligent I am! And I don't have to have a man tell me that! I know how full of love I am! And whoever is in my past... It's your loss.
I am capable of doing anything. I'm not opposed to anything which gives me the opportunities and creativity to do anything in the entire world!

Love yourself. All of you. You are soooooooooo worth it! And don't let anyone tell you otherwise!